Day 4/5 – Time to Clear the DVR

I did not post yesterday because I was busy putting the finishing touches on my first “pay it forward” of the 31 Days of Giving.  After finishing the tasks needed to put the gift in motion, I sat down at the table to eat dinner.  My husband suggested that we move to another room so we can watch a new series he had recorded on the DVR.  As he went through the recordings to play the show, I noticed that we had a lot of stuff on our DVR; things we’d watched and never deleted, or things we’d recorded and never got around to watching.  I made a mental note to make time to clear the DVR and the light bulb went off.

There’s three levels of purging that are needed from life’s DVR.

#1 – Delete Old Episodes

The baby you had as a teenager is now an adult, yet you still carry the shame of being a teen parent.  The relationship that ended decades ago due to your lying, abuse, or inability to love has long been gone.  The other person has forgiven you, and moved on with their lives, but you’re unable to function in a new relationship because you’re still beating yourself up over past failures.  You struggled with a few classes in undergrad and dropped out.  It’s years later and you won’t go back to school because you had a hard time before.

Whatever you scenario, it’s time to CLICK THE DELETE BUTTON!!!!  It’s time to let the past GO!  Your PAST mistakes do not define your PRESENT nor FUTURE conditions.  Stop replaying the not-so-stellar moments in your life.  You’re missing out on the excitement of a new episode because you keep watching reruns!

#2 – Remove Series Record

Perhaps rewinding isn’t your problem; pressing play is.  And, it’s not your own DVR you’re controlling, it’s others around you.  Every time they attempt to do better, or to better themselves, you’re there to replay their prior mistakes and short comings. 

TAKE THEM OFF OF SERIES RECORD!  Press the “Live” button and allow those who have wronged you or done wrong to LIVE!

#3 – Stop Recording Idle Stuff

You ever go through your DVR and wonder, “why did I record that?”  Perhaps the description peeked your interest briefly and you recorded it thinking you would watch it some day.  The same is true in life.  You have that number, that e-mail address, that Facebook friend, that Twitter follower that you’re keeping around “just in case.”  Perhaps it’s not a person, but it’s those shoes, those clothes, those hats, those purses that you know you don’t need nor want, but you’re just holding on to them. 

STOP HOLDING ON TO STUFF YOU KNOW YOU DON’T WANT NOR NEED!  Just because it briefly interested you doesn’t mean it needs a permanent spot in your life.

There’s so much more in store for you in 2014, but you’re too full of past stuff to accept anything new!  Purge TODAY!



Day 3- I See You

There may be disappearing ink, but there aren’t disappearing people.  You are not invisible.  Though you may not get acknowledged as much as you would like to (and even should), do know that you are seen…and appreciated!

So, take a look in the mirror and repeat after me:

I see you…and you are AMAZING!

Day 2 – No Apologies Needed

Today I want to encourage you to stop apologizing.

I already see you looking at the screen with that “Whatchu talkin’ ’bout, Willis?!?” face.

I want you to stop apologizing for being blessed.

Perhaps you don’t literally say, “I’m sorry,” but your apology comes dressed like this:

Commenter: Girl, those are some nice shoes!

You:  These things are so old…and they’re a size too big.

You received a compliment, and instead of saying “thank you,” you pointed out what’s wrong.


It’s o.k. to be blessed!  You don’t have to make apologies or excuses for the nice things you may own, the gifts and talents you possess, or whatever else you have been favored with.  Simply say, “thank you!”  Thank the person giving the compliment, then thank Him who makes it all possible.